A few weeks ago I was listening to one of my favourite radio shows, Q with Jian Ghomeshi, and suddenly I heard the most incredible music. Listening to it made me feel like if I closed my eyes long enough I might wake up on a beach or maybe somewhere in Brooklyn. I kept listening and found out that the music was by a new band called Eight and a Half. I am notorious for complaining about the lack of good new bands so this made me stand up and take notice. Within a week I went out and bought the album and have probably listened to it 20 times already. This is the perfect summer music as it’s light, slightly new wave-y, ethereal and dreamy. I might have known that I would like this band as it’s made up of members from both Broken Social Scene AND The Stills but I was still thrilled to finally hear a new band that makes beautiful music.
I first heard about Soak a few years ago when I discovered my now favourite lingerie store, Secrets From Your Sister. Soak is a laundry soap to use for hand wash only items. At first I figured it would be nothing special and didn’t want to try it. But the ladies at Secrets gave me a few samples to try (Soak comes in a variety of scents) so I gave it a go. Now I know raving about laundry soap may seem a bit out there but this stuff is amazing! The premise of Soak is that unlike other hand wash detergents, Soak only requires you to, well, soak your clothes in a mixture of the soap and water and then wring them out and hang them up to dry. Unlike the regular stuff, you don’t have to spend ages trying to rinse all of the detergent out of your clothes. I tend to be pretty lazy when it comes to laundry so Soak is definitely a must have for me. Not only that but it has a lot of other uses. I now use it for all of my hand wash clothing, not just lingerie, and I also use it to clean my makeup brushes. I love the Lacey scent and as silly as it sounds, Soak has changed the way I look at laundry.
I’ve been thinking a lot about love. I’ve been single for an extremely long time now. I was with my last boyfriend for less than a year. We started off really intense. It wasn’t intentional, I simply met him and felt as if I had known him forever. Somehow for him it fizzled out. I kept holding on to something that was already dead, hoping that he would wake up and realize he loved me but it never happened.
Lately it seems that a lot of people around me are breaking up. One of my friends just had her heart broken by a guy who had already brought up marriage and moving in together. Another friend is on the verge of divorce. Love seems like one of those things that everyone is grasping for and once you feel it you think, “This is it!” And yet so many times, it’s not.
So what’s the deal? Are we really meant to be with just one person forever? Would our lives be easier if we thought of love as a series of long term relationships rather than the expectation of having only one “true” love? Why is it that so many relationships end when only one person has lost interest, what is it that makes that person’s love fizzle out while the other’s is burning bright?
I was watching one of my favourite shows, Being Erica, lately. The main character congratulated a friend of hers for being in love. The whole concept seems so strange. On the one hand, we all want the best for our friends. Although I am sometimes lonely I often feel excited for my friends when they start new relationships. And yet if there’s anything the past few weeks has shown me it’s that even the most perfect looking relationships can fall apart. It’s an interesting paradox that even in an age of 1 in 3 marriages ending in divorce people will still pour their life savings into one special day to celebrate their love.
So what’s the real deal? Well, I have no idea. I can only hope that the people I care about find love but furthermore that they find joy outside of romantic love. There is so much more to life and even though I know that feeling of life only being complete when you have been swept up in the romance of being with someone else I also know that there is so much more to life than just love.
I love Sloan. I first heard about them in 1994 when I was around 9 and their first full length album, Twice Removed, had just been released. When I think of great Canadian music Sloan is one of the first bands that comes to mind. They have been a mainstay of the Canadian music scene for over 20 years and continually churn out incredible music. I have a number of favourite songs by them but I’ve managed to narrow it down to just three that I think everyone should hear.
The Lines You Amend
This is a great song that makes me feel like I’ve suddenly been transported back to the 60s or 70s. In fact if you listen very closely while watching The Virgin Suicides, a movie that takes place in the mid 70s, you can hear this song (and another Sloan song, Everything You’ve Done Wrong) playing in the background. At the very least, it is one of my favourite summer songs.
Someone I Can Be True With
This song isn’t even two minutes long but I think it’s one of the greatest love songs ever.
Aside from the hand claps it’s hard for me to explain but to me this is a quintessential Sloan song.
Finally, I forgot to mention one of my favourite aspects of Sloan: each band member plays a little bit of everything. This isn’t a typical band where one member always sings and plays guitar while the others stick to drums, bass, etc. Each member writes and sings their own songs and they rotate as necessary. It’s always amusing to see a live Sloan show and watch as they change positions on stage.